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Showing posts with label True friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label True friends. Show all posts

Sunday, 3 April 2011

Social Networking & Happiness

This is a strange world today. Friendships are made online and dies online. Such acquaintances suffer no pangs of separation because they are like that.

After all your real Friend is your Computer. It's the bird cage in which all your frinds are confined.
What does it matter if your friend on the other side is suffering? You can sympathetically cluck like a concerned hen sitting halfway across the globe. You friend feels happy you 'felt' for him/her. Their day is made.

I've signed up in many sites like that also. I confess, even Adult Friend Finder recently (just to see if a middle aged man could find emotional support, how foolinsh of me!). All the networking sites are similar. When they start off it's only for friends, communities, stable relationships and perhaps even marriage. Eventually, 90% of the members are looking for sex, I'm not minicing words here because I'm so disappointed.

That is because, young girls just out of their teens want "an older experienced gentleman, willing to spend" for a discrete relationship. If you are out for sex, why ask for money? Funny.

Here I am a 40 something man, suffering the pangs of separation, searching for a lost friend (first 9 priorities) or make a new one (10th on priority list), looking for emotional support and companionship. Sex is the last thing on my mind because I believe sex with a stranger is lust. Any whore will do then. I need to be compatible emotionally before I can jump into bed. I make love gently & passionately. I can't enjoy raw sex without that bonding in mind and heart. 

Forgive me if I sound like an idiot. I know most of my readers will be shaking their heads in pity and telling each other that I don't know which side of my bread is buttered.

It's Ok. I will live with my faults. Take it or leave it.

Social Networking will not give me the Happiness I'm searching for but I  might find some rare Gems that I will value all my life. 

Thursday, 31 March 2011

I, We & Togetherness

Having said that we need to look inwards to take care of "I", there is another favourite quote of mine.

"If you want to walk fast, walk alone. But if you want to walk far, walk together."

God gave us our relatives but, thankfully, he let us choose our Friends. I don't have many that I can call a true friend (actually hardly any), if a friend is defined as someone who vibes with you emotionally.


On this Journey in pursuit of Happiness it would be good to find a friend. Some who can travel with me and take care of the navigation. Perhaps even hold the wheel and drive once in while when I'm weary and want to rest for sometime.

I love the loneliness but sometimes it makes sense to have a friend to travel with you.